PLEASE LADIES DO NOT GET MARRIED!!!
Posted by Social Matters , Saturday, June 6, 2015 11:52 AM
All young girls dream of the day that
they will get married to their ‘prince charming’, their knight in shining
armour, the man of their dreams, the one that will sweep them of their feet and
wipe their tears away. The one during those ‘funeral moments’ those moments
when you are attending the burial of a person close to you and he looks at you
hoping to never have loose you. The one who will hold you in your arms when the
times get tough and hold you so tightly that nothing in the world matters. That
is the man most women want to go home to or have sex with. But I am made to
believe by my married sisters that the grass is never greener on the other side,
in fact there is no grass on the other side. While
the unmarried sisters cannot wait to get married, the married ones are so negative
towards marriage. Let me pause and ask.
‘Why are married women so
negative towards marriage?’
95% of all married women I know seem to
agree on one thing, ‘husbands are overrated?’ A few days ago a woman who is in
her sixties said to me in a matter of fact kind of way ‘that’s why I keep on
saying, it’s better to stay alone than with these people.’ A couple of years
ago a woman inquired about my marital status and when I said I was not married,
she told me if she could turn back the hands of time and be my age, she would
not get married but would have her children and raise them alone. Married women
tell me all the time ‘get a child’ that is the most important thing in life.
Everyone I know says marriage is hard work, sex is a struggle. That I will
learn to cry alone because my husband will say hurtful things and will never
apologise for his words and actions, that in the end, being a wife is all
taking care of my husband’s need and that the friendship we had before marriage
will be over long before I know it.
Sadly, I get this advice from married
women, both old and young. They have such a bitter attitude towards marriage, it’s
hard to comprehend. The funny thing is that they are all still married to their
spouses. I do get where they are coming from, their marriages did not turn out
as they expected, and yes their husbands are hell bent on making their lives
miserable. But a good number of people get married for the wrong reasons and
both parties tend to be very unreasonable.
So, will I take the advise of these
married women and give up on the idea of marriage. Absolutely not! I happen to
have some of the coolest male friends in the planet and I am sure they will
make absolutely wonderful husbands to their wives. I think at times as women we
marry the wrong men and expect them to conform to our expectations and when
that fails, we put all men in a box labeled ‘bad’. I strongly believe in
marriage as an institution and a friendship that should last an entire
lifetime. Today I attended a funeral of my mom’s uncle who was murdered as he
rode his bicycle home, he was 78 years old and his wife had tears in her eyes.
Now that kind of love is worth waiting for. So I will politely choose to ignore
the unsolicited advise that married women keep dishing to me. Marriage works! Not
all women and men are evil.
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